October 17 2015

“PARENTS” VI

teen-mom-talking

How Parents Must Handle Teenager Problems

Life is like a roller-coaster; it has many ups and downs, but it’s your choice to either scream or enjoy the ride. Isn’t it?

It constantly keeps throwing challenges at you, as a child, teenage, parents or adults no matter what phase of the life cycle you are in. You indeed have lot many problems to deal with. Similarly teenage problems are something you just cannot ignore. Honestly, no one has ever pretended that parenting is easy especially when your kids are in their teens. You can stay positive with the belief that your teenager will never answer you back, throw tantrums, stay out too late or have a pierced and tattooed body.

Teenage Phase

Teenage phase is a time of rapid change for kids both physically and cognitively. Teens face countless problems and challenges. They deal with lot of emotional highs and lows. One minute they might feel great, and the next moment, they are depressed. These kinds of mood swings are common teenage problems. Teenage is the time where parents need to lay a strong foundation in their kid’s life. This of course needs to be done patiently and skillfully. With a relatively civilized approach, you can troubleshoot the following teenage behavior problems in the right direction.

Teenage Problems and Solutions

1. Depression – Down Way of Life

Depression is the most common mental health problem faced by teenagers which may sometimes lead to suicide. Teenagers can’t differentiate sadness and depression. Many factors can lead to depression and the reaction of each teen is different to such things.

Symptoms of major depression in teenagers

Teenage sleep problems

Behavioral changes

Careless about physical safety

Disturbed mental health

Frequent health issues like headache

Preoccupation with death and suicide

Giving warning hints such as “I won’t be a problem for you much longer”

Prolonged sad or angry mood

Suddenly clearing out belongings and getting them in order

Becoming suddenly cheerful without reason after being depressed

Teenage pregnancy problems

 

These are the most teenage health problems symptoms you can observe in your child’s behavior. So, being a parent, what should you do? Well, find a good place to talk. Make your child comfortable with the surroundings and talk to him/her calmly and patiently. Try to identify your child’s problem and see what you can do to help him/her out.

2. Drinking, Smoking and Drugs

Teenagers find drinking alcohol, having drugs, smoking hookah or cigars very fashionable and trendy. It makes them feel very cool and proud and be part of the grown ups crowd. They suddenly feel that rush in them, all energized, wanting to explore anything and everything.

To deal with this problem effectively, first and foremost, try to find out the reason why your teen is drinking alcohol or getting into smoking and drugs. If parents consume alcohol on regular basis, then teen is more likely to start drinking at an early age. You must have heard an old famous quote which goes on like “Monkey See- Monkey Do”

Parents need to feel free to talk to their teens about certain subjects like dating, sex, drugs, and alcohol. It is this inability to discuss the good and bad points that drives them to take wrong steps out of curiosity.

Someone drinks with curiosity and some to get out of feeling of hell! Alcohol acts as a depressant and helps them to escape their troubled teen lives. When teens see their peers drinking or smoking, they too indulge in without thinking right or wrong. Peer pressure is probably the toughest challenge teens have to deal with. And the least a teenager would want is to be left out of his/her group of friends. When it comes to drugs, the most important thing as parents you can do is express plenty of love to your juniors to get them rid of this deadly addiction.

3. Cyber Space Addiction

It’s no secret that many teens are big fans of cyber space. They are always glued to their computers, laptops or cell phones. Internet is very useful, it makes things very easy but like everything has its pros and cons, so does internet.

You are surely known with the fact how one can become trapped and hooked to internet with all the attractive things its got to offer. So, one must be careful while using internet day and night and be rational. Parents must monitor what their children are doing with the smart devices and to what extent are they being exposed to the world outside. You must make sure to spend good amount of time your children to build that bond of love and trust so that they can freely communicate their thoughts, feelings and problems with you.

4.Your Teen Dislikes You

Children in their teens tend to reject their parents. They do not like communicating often or confiding in them. They are more comfortable in their friend’s company. It is common with every teenager.

You need to understand this is a temporary phase and children too know they still need their parents no matter how reluctantly they act and is it common to have teenage problems with parents.

5. Staying Out Too Late

It takes a toll on parents when their teenage kids stay out too late in the night. You surely must have set good limits for your children but then why do they break them again and again?

In this case, your child does not feel happy to stay at home. You must try to talk to your child calmly and find out what is the reason that is keeping him/her so late. Teenage girl problems are more common as they observe changes in their body suddenly. You must ensure to set proper rules for them. If they still continue to ignore you, it is time to set the consequences and ensure that they follow the said rules. for eg.. you can try like “no going out in evenings this whole week”, “no hanging out with friends for a week, if proper timing is not followed”

Along with the above, teenage attitude problems also include generation gap, parental exception, career judgment, socialization, peer pressure and sexual pressure. All these are likely to make them depressed and stressed. One and only best solution for these problems is your unconditional love and care. Be their best friend and guide them without being demanding. Trying to control them harshly or imposing things will only make situations worse for you as well as them.

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Akshata Agarwal

October 14 2015

“PARENTS” V

giving advice 10 Things You Must Tell Your Teen

You want — and need — to give your teenager advice. So what exactly do they need to hear from you? Is there a better way than trying to yell advice in their direction as they’re getting out of the car?

Here’s what to say and, maybe more important, how to say it to get through to your teen.

1. Stop and think.

Teens are risk-takers, and that’s good. They can’t grow without trying new things and taking some risks. But they also act on impulse, and the two together can be trouble. Ask your teen to stop and think, says Melisa Holmes, MD, co-founder of Girlology and Guyology, educational programs about adolescent health.

“It takes a conscious effort for teens to learn how to put the brakes on their brain,” Holmes says. “The best place to practice is when using social media.”

If your teen is thinking about posting a photo or going into an online chat room, urge them to ask themselves: “Why do I want to do this? What risks may be involved? Is it worth it?”

They may not think of using social media as a risky behavior, but like other choices they make, it can have a lasting impact on them. By practicing in one arena, they’ll learn to pause to ask the same questions when weighing other choices.

2. Listen to your gut.

Why tell your teen this? Your gut remembers your true self and the guidance of teachers, coaches, parents, or youth leaders. That can help when you’re in a tricky situation or unchartered territory.

Let your teen know you have confidence in them to think for themselves and make solid choices. Tell them that learning to hear their “inner voice” takes practice, but it will guide them well (when you’re not there).

3. When you think “everyone is doing it,” check the facts.

Your teen may learn that everyone else isn’t doing it — whether “it” is drinking, having sex, or something else. Finding that out can relieve the peer pressure to do something he or she may not feel ready for.

Take sex as an example. Your teen may think everyone their age is sexually active, but in fact, less than half of U.S. high school students are.

“He may find out that his peers are not really doing it, but they’re letting people think they’re doing it while they figure out if it is OK,” says Holmes.

4. Decide now when it’s OK for you to have sex.

This may sound weird because you probably don’t want to think about your teen having sex, but thinking about it now can make a difference, experts say.

“Teens aren’t great at thinking on their feet,” Holmes says. When they work out ahead of time how they will turn down drugs, drinking, sex, or other challenges, they are much better at matching their actions with their values.

“Making a plan ahead of time can delay intercourse up to 18 months,” Holmes says.

But talking about it happening doesn’t mean you’re being totally lax or giving your teen a free pass. Be clear about what you expect. For example, you might say, “I want you to delay having sex until it can become part of a meaningful relationship.”

Also make sure your teen knows about STDs and how to prevent them, where to get condoms and birth control (including emergency contraception), how to use protection, and how to see a doctor even if he or she doesn’t want you to know that they are going, Holmes says.

If that feels as if you’re giving a mixed message, she suggests saying, “I want you to have this information because you will most likely need it yourself one day, but you also might use it to help a friend now.”

5. Practice how you will say “no.”

Even adults have trouble saying “no” sometimes. Rehearsing ahead of time cuts down on the stress of having to say no and thinking of how to do it. Point out that having a plan will give your teen more resolve and power in sticky situations, says Carl Pickhardt, PhD, a psychologist in Austin, Texas, and the author of Surviving Your Child’s Adolescence.

Most likely, your teen can come up with their own ways to say “no.” But when caught by surprise, Pickhardt says, a good standby is to say, “‘Not right now.’ In other words, ‘I’ll do what I like when I want to do it, not when somebody else wants me to.'” This response can also cut down on people asking “Why?”

6. Don’t take any drug or medicine casually.

Teens may think it’s safer to get high on prescription drugs like Adderall (used to treat ADHD) or nonprescription drugs such as cough medicines because they’re legal — unlike street drugs.

Many teens don’t know that you can overdose on nonprescription medications, because you can buy them at a pharmacy or the grocery store without a prescription. But they can be just as dangerous as street drugs when they are abused. Also, because medicines can be easy to get from home medicine cabinets, some kids share medicines with friends or sell them.

“Tell your teen that even prescription and over-the-counter drugs carry risks and side effects, and she doesn’t know what the side effects will be for her because they’re different for everyone,” Pickhardt says.

Abusing stimulants like some ADHD drugs can cause seizures or heart failure. Let your teen know that their body and brain are too precious to take the risk.

7. Drinking can warp your brain.

Explain that 21 isn’t just a random number. The reason the legal drinking age is 21 is because alcohol can cause long-term changes in your teen’s brain while it’s still developing.

Teens who drink are also more likely to have unprotected sex and be assaulted or assault others sexually, get in car accidents and fights, and take dangerous dares.

8. Find your passion.

Urge your teen to become an expert in something they love. This will help satisfy their longing for excitement.

“He’ll learn that he can get thrills from things like performing, being recognized, pushing the boundaries, and being creative — not just from sex, drugs, or other risky behavior,” Holmes says. Follow this up by making opportunities for him to try new things, Pickhardt says.

9. People mess up. Learn from your mistakes.

It may seem obvious, but teens need to be reassured that everyone makes mistakes and that they can use theirs as learning opportunities.

For example, Holmes says, a girl who regrets having had sex may think that since she has done it once, “What does it matter anymore? It’s too late to change.”

But she can set new limits to avoid making whatever she feels is a mistake twice. Tell your teen that learning from their mistakes will make them wiser.

10. I love you.

It’s not really a piece of advice, but it is one of the most important things you can tell your teen. Remind them often that you respect them, want to help them succeed, and are here for them no matter what.

If you do, they’re more likely to listen when you give advice.

WebMD Feature

By Camille Peri

Reviewed By Brunilda Nazario, MD

October 12 2015

“PARENTS” IIII

TEENAGERS DRINKING5 Teen Behavior Problems: A Troubleshooting Guide

Is your teenager rebelling, defying your curfew, or hanging out with questionable kids? Here’s how to nip behavior problems in the bud.

WebMD Feature

Reviewed By Brunilda Nazario, MD

To be fair, no one has ever pretended that parenting a teenager was going to be easy. Still, until your own kids reach that stage, it’s tempting to believe your family will be immune to teen behavior problems. No, you tell yourself, your teenager will never talk back, stay out too late or pierce her eyebrow.

Dream on.

Teenagers are basically hard-wired to butt heads with their parents, says Stuart Goldman, MD, director of psychiatric education at Children’s Hospital in Boston. “Adolescence is a time of rapid change for kids both physically and cognitively,” he explains. “It’s the task of the teenager to fire their parents and then re-hire them years later, but as consultants rather than managers.”

But that doesn’t mean you have to take it lying down. With the right approach, you can troubleshoot the following teen behavior problems in a relatively civilized fashion.

Teen Behavior Problem 1:

Your Teen Seems To Hate You

One minute your sweet child is begging you to come on the class trip or to lie down with her while she falls asleep. Then, seemingly overnight, she starts treating you like dirt, discounting everything you say and snickering at your suggestions. If you look closely, you’ll see that you’ve been through this before, when she was a toddler — only instead of shouting “no!” like a two-year-old would, a teenager simply rolls her eyes in disgust.

“It’s so hard for parents when this happens,” says Nadine Kaslow, PhD, a psychologist specializing in kids and families at Emory University in Atlanta. “But part of adolescence is about separating and individuating, and many kids need to reject their parents in order to find their own identities.” Teens focus on their friends more than on their families, which is normal too.

Your Solution

Sometimes parents feel so hurt by their teens’ treatment that they respond by returning the rejection — which is a mistake. “Teenagers know that they still need their parents even if they can’t admit it,” says Goldman. “The roller-coaster they put you on is also the one they’re feeling internally.” As the parent, you need to stay calm and try to weather this teenage rebellion phase, which usually passes by the time a child is 16 or 17.

But no one’s saying your teen should be allowed to be truly nasty or to curse at you; when this happens, you have to enforce basic behavior standards. One solution is the good, old-fashioned approach of: “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” By letting your teenager know that you’re here for him no matter what, you make it more likely that he’ll let down his guard and confide in you once in a while, which is a rare treat.

Teen Behavior Problem 2:

Communication Devices Rule Their Lives

It’s ironic that teenage forms of communication like instant messaging, texting, and talking on cell phones make them less communicative, at least with the people they live with. In today’s world, though, forbidding all use of electronic devices is not only unrealistic, but unkind. “Being networked with their friends is critical to most teens,” says Goldman.

Your Solution

Look at the big picture, advises Susan Bartell, PhD, an adolescent psychologist in New York. If your child is functioning well in school, doing his chores at home and not completely retreating from family life, it’s probably best to “lay off.” It’s also OK to set reasonable limits, such as no “texting” or cell phone calls during dinner. Some parents prefer not to let teens have computers in their rooms, since it makes it harder to supervise computer usage, and this is perfectly reasonable. Many experts also suggest establishing a rule that the computer has to be off at least one hour before bedtime, as a way to ensure that teens get more sleep.

One good way to limit how many minutes your teen spends talking on his cell and texting: Require him to pay his own cell phone bills. And do your best to monitor what your child does when he’s online, particularly if he or she is using networking sites like MySpace and Facebook. You still own the home and computer — so check into parental Internet controls and software to monitor use of any questionable web sites.

Teen Behavior Problem 3:

Staying Out Too Late

It’s 10:30 p.m. and you told your daughter to be home by 10 p.m. Why does she ignore your curfew again and again?

“Part of what teens do is test limits,” explains Goldman. “But the fact is that they actually want limits, so parents need to keep setting them.”

Your Solution

Do some research before insisting that your child respect your curfew because it’s possible that yours is unreasonable. Call a few of your kids’ friends’ parents and find out when they expect their kids home. Goldman suggests giving kids a 10-minute grace period, and if they defy that, to set consequences — such as no going out at night for a week.

If it seems like your child is staying out late because she’s up to no good, or doesn’t feel happy at home, then you need to talk with her and figure out what might be going on. However, if your curfew is in line with what’s typical in your teen’s crowd, then it’s time to set consequences and then enforce them if your teen continues to break your rules. When you make a rule, you have to mean it. You can’t bluff teenagers — they will always call you on it.

Teen Behavior Problem 4:

Hanging Out with Kids You Don’t Like

You wince every time your son traipses through the door with his greasy-haired, noisy buddies. Should you suck it up, or say something?

Your Solution

Kids can wear weird clothes, pierce their lips, act rudely and still be decent kids, says Bartell, who advises parents to hold off on criticizing something as superficial as fashion in their kids’ friends. “Teenagers are so attached to their friends that it’s like criticizing them directly.”

On the other hand, if you know that your child has taken up with a group of troubled teens who skip school and do drugs, a talk is in order. “Without putting him on the defensive, tell your child you’re concerned about who he’s hanging out with and that you’re worried he’s doing drugs,” says Bartell. While you can’t forbid your child to hang around with certain kids, you can intervene and try to nip dangerous behaviors in the bud. Don’t be afraid to ask for professional help about hanging out with a crowd engaged in negative behavior. Counseling or family therapy can help.

Teen Behavior Problem 5:

Everything’s a Drama

Every little thing seems to set your daughter off lately, and the more you try to help, the more she sobs or shouts or slams the door.

Part of being a teenager is feeling things intensely, so what may seem like no big deal to you is hugely important to her.

Your Solution

Parents tend to trivialize the importance of things in teenagers’ lives, says Bartell: “What happens is that kids feel misunderstood, and eventually they will stop telling you anything. Right now it is the most important thing in the world that her best friend is flirting with her boyfriend, and you need to take it seriously.”

Don’t offer advice, disparage her friends or try to minimize it by saying that one day she’ll see how silly high school romances are. “Just listen and sympathize,” says Bartell. And put yourself in her position — because, after all, you were once there yourself.

October 10 2015

“PARENTS” III

 

Teenage-Lingo-1Children have always had their own language. But the way they converse today is really strange to any Parent.

 Here are a few examples of what they are talking about:

teenage lingo

text lingoA field guide to text terms and abbreviations

To help you in your quest to decode your kids’ space-constrained text babble, we’ve compiled a list of popular terms and abbreviations. Don’t be surprised if you see variations when it comes to capitalization or style; it’s common for some kids to prefer all caps to lowercase or even changing capitalization, whether at the beginning or middle of a message.

These 92 terms are among the most popular, but know that this is just the tip of the iceberg.

  1. 143 I love you (popularized by no less awesome a source than Mister Rogers himself)
  2. 2DAY Today
  3. 4EAE For ever and ever
  4. ADN Any day now
  5. AFAIK As far as I know
  6. AFK Away from keyboard
  7. ATM At the moment
  8. B/C Because
  9. B4 Before
  10. BF / GF Boyfriend / Girlfriend
  11. BFN Bye for now
  12. BOL Be on later
  13. BRB Be right back
  14. BTW By the way
  15. DM Direct message
  16. DWBH Don’t worry, be happy
  17. F2F or FTF Face to face
  18. FB Facebook
  19. FF Follow Friday (Follow Friday is a recurring topic on Twitter. Each week, users post lists of people that they think others should followusing the #FF or #FollowFriday hashtag.)
  20. FTL For the loss / For the lose
  21. FTW For the win
  22. FWB Friends with benefits
  23. FWIW For what it’s worth
  24. FYEO For your eyes only
  25. FYI For your information
  26. GLHF Good luck, have fun
  27. GR8 Great
  28. HAK Hugs and kisses
  29. HAND Have a nice day
  30. HT or H/T Hat tip or heard through (usually referencing news or an informative link)
  31. HTH Hope this helps / Happy to help
  32. IANAL I am not a lawyer
  33. IDK I don’t know
  34. IIRC If I remember correctly
  35. IKR I know, right?
  36. ILY / ILU I love you
  37. IMHO In my honest opinion / In my humble opinion
  38. IMO In my opinion
  39. IRL In real life
  40. IU2U It’s up to you
  41. IYKWIM If you know what I mean
  42. J/K Just kidding
  43. J4F Just for fun
  44. JIC Just in case
  45. JSYK Just so you know
  46. K or KK Okay
  47. LMBO Laughing my butt off
  48. LMK Let me know
  49. LOL Laughing out loud
  50. MM Music Monday. Another recurring Twitter topic. In this case, users post a song or two that will get your week off to a better start.
  51. MSM Mainstream media
  52. NAGI Not a good idea
  53. NM Never mind
  54. NMU Not much, you?
  55. NP No problem or Now playing (as in “My MP3 stream is now playing LMFAO’s Party Rock.)
  56. NSFW Not safe for work. If this is attached to a link, you’re strongly advised not to check it out while in the workplace or any other venue where inappropriate content would be, well, inappropriate.
  57. NSFL Not safe for life. Usually a humorous disclaimer that something formerly innocent is going to be irreparably sullied if you click the link.
  58. NTS Note to self
  59. OH Overheard
  60. OMG Oh my God
  61. ORLY Oh, really?
  62. PAW Parents are watching
  63. PLS or PLZ Please
  64. PPL People
  65. PTB Please text back
  66. QQ Crying. Rather than an abbreviation, this is an emoticon, a picture created in text. The tails of the capital Q form tears, while the circles are the eyes. Saying “QQ” aloud also can mimic the “boo hoo” of someone who’s upset. Usually used sarcastically or contemptuously.
  67. RAK Random act of kindness
  68. RL Real life
  69. ROFL Rolling on the floor laughing
  70. RT Retweet. Similar to forwarding an email, Twitter lets you echo other people’s tweets for your own followers to read. In some cases, folks will ask for something they’ve said to be amplified by saying “Please RT” or “PLS RT.”
  71. RUOK Are you okay? In Australia, #RUOK is a regularly trending topic, following a government initiative called RUOK Day, which raises awareness of mental health issues on social networking sites.
  72. SMH Shaking my head
  73. SRSLY Seriously
  74. SSDD Same stuff, different day
  75. SWAK Sealed with a kiss
  76. SWYP So, what’s your problem?
  77. TIA Thanks in advance
  78. TIME Tears in my eyes
  79. TMB Tweet me back
  80. TMI Too much information
  81. TMRW Tomorrow
  82. TTYL Talk to you later
  83. TY or TU Thank you
  84. VSF Very sad face
  85. WB Welcome back
  86. WTH What the heck?
  87. WTPA Where the party at?
  88. WYCM Will you call me?
  89. YGM You’ve got mail (to alert your texting partner that you’ve contacted them via that staid old email thing. That’s sooo 2001!)
  90. YMMV Your mileage may vary
  91. YW You’re welcome
  92. ZOMG Oh my god (sarcastic)

This article was written by Jessica Citizen and originally appeared on Tecca.

I hope these lists will help you out!

 

 

 

October 8 2015

“PARENTS” Lesson II

young manThere is a tremendous amounts of information on the web. Here are some of the things you should know.

Teen Substance Use

“THE WARNING SIGNS”

Certain symptoms and behaviors are warning signs for substance use in teens, although they may also indicate other problems, such as depression. Warning signs can include:

Alcohol, smoke or other chemical odors on your child’s or their friends’ breath or clothing

Obvious intoxication, dizziness or bizarre behavior

Changes in dress and grooming

Changes in choice of friends

Frequent arguments, sudden mood changes and unexplained violent actions

Changes in eating and sleeping patterns

Sudden weight gain or loss

Loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies

School problems such as declining or failing grades, poor attendance and recent discipline problems

Trauma or frequent injuries

Runaway and delinquent behavior

Depressed mood or talk about depression or suicide; suicide attempts

 

Children of hands-on parents are far less likely to smoke, drink or use other drugs. Highly engaged parents are more likely to notice some of the warning signs of substance use.

Source: American Academy of Pediatrics. (2009). “Substance Abuse Prevention”

Diagnostic Evaluation

There are no blood, urine or tissue tests that alone diagnose the disease of addiction. It is diagnosed by a person’s behavioral symptoms, which include continued, compulsive use of tobacco, alcohol or other drugs or other compulsive behaviors in spite of damaging health and social consequences.

Addiction Symptoms Checklist

Symptoms of addiction involving nicotine, alcohol and other drugs occurring within a 12-month period:

Often taking more of the substance for a longer period than intended

Ongoing desire or unsuccessful efforts to reduce use

Great deal of time spent to obtain, use or recover from substance

Craving the substance

Failing to fulfill obligations at work, home or school as a result of continued use

Continued use despite ongoing social or relationship problems caused or worsened by use

Giving up or reducing social, occupational or recreational activities because of use

Repeated use in physically dangerous situations (like drinking or using other drugs while driving, or smoking in bed)

Continued use despite ongoing physical or mental health problems caused or worsened by use

Developing tolerance (feeling less effect from the substance with continued use)

Experiencing withdrawal symptoms after reducing use (symptoms vary by substance). Withdrawal does not happen with all substances; examples include inhalants and hallucinogens

 CASAColumbia. (2012). Addiction medicine: Closing the gap between science and practice.

Here is a web site where you can find out how much each drug is selling for on the street: http://streetrx.com/index.php

When you need to know, if your child is taking any kind of Medication. Or you are suspicious of them taking “DRUGS”!

You can make an appointment for them. But, when you go to the doctor.  Request a consent form, that your child must sign.

Giving you the permission, to know what the Doctor has found out.

When I took My Son to the Doctor, I did not know:

1. What drug I wanted him to be tested for

2. He and I did not sign a consent form

Therefore, I was not able to know the results of the test!

The receptionist tells My Son, ”In a couple of days we will call you with the results.” I said, “ I need the results not Him.” She replied “Well according to the “LAW”!

 “He should have signed a consent form before he saw the Doctor!  Giving you the legal right to know, the outcome!”

When we got in the car, He said to me,

“Don’t worry Mom I will let you know, what the Doctor sez when he calls me!!!”

They “Do Not Tell You This Before Hand.” Your Child is Eighteen and they are considered an “ADULT!”

Parents you must be in the Know! Do your Homework even if you have no suspicions.

It’s better to be safe than sorry.

 

October 6 2015

“I AM RICKY”

we stand unitedAs I write,” My Journey.” I must let you know a little secret. I am scared, afraid and very much apprehensive. This has been an extremely, very hard event in my Life.

Putting my heart on paper.

Letting the world into my Life’s Journey. Every Post that I have, written is gut wrenching for me. I reach into the depth of my soul. Words come pouring out, I do not even know how!

I have buried my feelings for so long. Just taking one day at a time, trying desperately, to do the daily,

“living thing!”

This noteworthy event has definitely changed me. I was once a carefree, Mom. “I had life, by the tail of a  soaring Kite.” Happy, Loved, Hard Working and Free. Not a care in the world.

Now, I stand before you Angry and In Despair!

Being a Mother and Wife, with nothing but Great Hope! That my Family and I, will recover as well, as My Son. You see it is not just the person addicted that must recover. What is our recovery? The memories of this torture, tend to linger on a daily basis. If you succumb to the very same anguish, that your Child is going through, I guarantee it will eat you alive!

My Prayer’s were answered when My Son, went into rehab. But once was not enough for him!

Your life and Your Families lives, will shatter into a million pieces, but have faith, there is definitely a

“Greater Being” in this universe.

Mine is G-d. With him I know, without a doubt, there is a greater plan.

So I keep my faith and prayers. That one day I will look back on this, with a smile.

Dear Parents, you have to stay strong no matter what. Do not let this Kill You.!

Our Love for our Children is a celebration of Our Lives. They were born out of the Love, we felt for our significant other. Mine being a, Man with a wonderful big Heart. He is and always has been my Rock.

Believe me when I tell you, he is proud and so strong. Devoted to me and His Children.

From the Horrors of this “Mania”!

We stand together, in the race to save innocent, Families and Children. In this Dark World.

All of us, are familiar with the path that we had to walk. WE Have to Stand United in the fact that this Disease, strikes almost every family in Our Great Nation.

Reading your sad stories has made me feel the distress in all of you, because I am going through it also.

So none of us are alone! We used to, when they were younger sit at their games and cheer them on.

We sat United.

Now we are standing on a thin line. Between Life and Death. For the child who is no, longer able to run free.

It is the time for us to do the same. “UNITE,” in an effort, to let other Parents.

Identify all the signs of this problem.

I invite you to my Face Book Page to discuss this crisis. How can we make a change to this Stigma!

We are the one’s that know! It is our responsibility to warn, a younger generation, of what could possibly come into their homes.

With our knowledge other people will be informed. Parents will take what we can give them and Maybe,

Just Maybe, Someone’s Child Will Be Saved!

When this “DEMON”, Entered my house. I had no clue. I did not know what to do. I am sure this happened to you also. Your comprehension, when you first realize that,

“Your Child is Using Drugs.”

Surprise and Fear, “No one wants to deal with a person, who is being devoured by this terrible illness”! Not even Family, there is disgrace that is branded on the Injured. “Stay Away, do not even look at Him!“ From that moment, my mind raced and all I could think of was how can I make him better. Well we all know that is not the case. We are powerless. But, we now Know what they NEED!

A facility that can handle this situation. That is where the help comes from. People that are trained to give your child the tools. To fight and purge the “DEMON,” that has entered their Bodies!

I do not think the public has any conception of what this does to a person. Yes, I know that there is discussion in schools. But I think there is not much discussion in the home. Because, of  the fear!!!

That this could happen to one of their own.

My Son had attended an, Event in school, he wore the “tee shirt”. “D.A.R.E.” I was clueless, he explained happily, how the assembly went. I thought, “Well that is great now he understands, Do Not Ever Take Drugs!

Well, we all know how that went……..!

I am inviting you. It is not by special invitation…. It is not a party……….

It will be for a new, “Beginning of Understanding and the Exchanging, of Our Idea’s.” Letting People know just how this process works.

My hope is to build a, “Gateway for People, to have the right knowledge from People, who have lived through it.”

To save their, Children’s Lives.”

With all of your knowledge and my own. “I recognize the long road ahead, but I have Faith. That one day, we no longer have this crisis on our hands. Our children will not be labeled, “Addicts!”

And the World Will Be a Better Place!

“When many Voices Come Together, there is always someone Listening.”

With Love & Appreciation,

Ricky

 

October 3 2015

“ONE LAST TIME”

baby feet

From the moment you hold your baby in your arms,

you will never be the same.

You might long for the person you were before,

When you had freedom and time,

And nothing in particular to worry about.

You will know tiredness like you never knew it before,

And days will run into days that are exactly the same,

Full of feedings and burping,

Happy changes and crying,

Whining and fighting,

Naps or lack of naps,

It may seem like a never–ending cycle

But don’t forget…

There is a last time for everything.

There will come a time when you will feed

your baby for the last time.

They will fall asleep on you after a long day

And it will be the last time you ever hold your sleeping child.

One day you may carry them on your hip then set them down,

And never pick them up that way again.

You will scrub their hair in the bath one night

And from that day on they will want to bathe alone.

They will hold your hand to cross the road,

Then never reach for it again.

They will creep into your room at midnight for cuddles,

And it will be the last night you ever wake to this.

One afternoon you will sing “The Wheels On The Bus”!

and do all the actions,

Then never sing them that song again.

They will kiss you goodbye at the school gate,

The next day they will ask to walk to the gate alone.

You will read a final bedtime story and wipe your last dirty face.

They will run to you with arms raised for the very last time.

The thing is, you won’t even know it’s the last time.

Until there are “No More Times”.

And even then, It will take you a while to realize.

So while you are living in these times,

remember there are only so many of them

and while they are gone,

you will yearn for just one more day of them.

For One Last Time.

 

Author Unknown

 

 

October 1 2015

HEROIN

I heroin killing a generationdestroy homes, tear families apart, take your children, and that’s just the start. I’m more costly than diamonds, more costly than gold, the sorrow I bring is a sight to behold, and if you need me, remember I’m easily found. I live all around you, in schools and in town.

I live with the rich, I live with the poor, I live down the street, and maybe next door. My power is awesome, try me you’ll see, but if you do, you may never break free.

       Just try me once and I might let you go, but try me twice, and I’ll own your soul.

When I possess you, you’ll steal and you’ll lie. You do what you have to just to get high. The crimes you’ll commit, for my narcotic charms will be worth the pleasure you’ll feel in your arms.

You’ll lie to your Mother, you’ll steal from your Dad. When you see their tears, you should feel sad. But you’ll forget your morals and how you were raised, I’ll be your conscience, I’ll teach you my ways.

I take kids from Parents, and Parents from kids, I turn people from God, and separate from friends. I’ll take everything from you, your looks and your pride, I’ll be with you always, right by your side. You’ll give up everything your family, your home, your friends, your money, then you’ll be alone.

I’ll take and take, till you have nothing more to give. When I’m finished with you you’ll be lucky to live. If you try me be warned this is no game. If given the chance, I’ll drive you insane. I’ll ravish your body. I’ll control your mind. I’ll own you completely, your soul will be mine.

The nightmares I’ll give you while lying in bed, the voices you’ll hear from inside your head, the sweats, the shakes, the visions you’ll see, I want you to know, these are all gifts from me. But then it’s too late, and you’ll know in your heart, that you are mine, and we shall not part.

You’ll regret that you tried me, they always do, but you came to me, not I to you. You knew this would happen. Many times you were told, but you challenged my power, and chose to be bold. You could have said no, and just walked away. If you could live that day over, now what would you say?

I’ll be your master, you will be my slave. I’ll even go with you, when you go to your grave.

Now that you have met me, what will you do? Will you try me or not? Its all up to you. I can bring you more misery than words can tell.

Come take my hand, let me lead you to hell.               crying mom


Vic James
Author: Unknown with, Nick Montecalvo and Bill Sivilli.
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September 26 2015

The Science of Drug Abuse & Addiction

CRYIG MOM    NIH National Institute on Drug Abuse

The Science of Drug Abuse & Addiction

What are the immediate (short-term) effects of heroin use?

Once heroin enters the brain, it is converted to morphine and binds rapidly to opioid receptors.11 Abusers typically report feeling a surge of pleasurable sensation—a “rush.” The intensity of the rush is a function of how much drug is taken and how rapidly the drug enters the brain and binds to the opioid receptors. With heroin, the rush is usually accompanied by a warm flushing of the skin, dry mouth, and a heavy feeling in the extremities, which may be accompanied by nausea, vomiting, and severe itching. After the initial effects, users usually will be drowsy for several hours; mental function is clouded; heart function slows; and breathing is also severely slowed, sometimes enough to be life-threatening. Slowed breathing can also lead to coma and permanent brain damage.12

Opioids Act on Many Places in the Brain and Nervous System

Opioids can depress breathing by changing neurochemical activity in the brain stem, where automatic body functions such as breathing and heart rate are controlled.Opioids can increase feelings of pleasure by altering activity in the limbic system, which controls emotions.

Opioids can block pain messages transmitted through the spinal cord from the body.

What are the long-term effects of heroin use?

Repeated heroin use changes the physical structure13 and physiology of the brain, creating long-term imbalances in neuronal and hormonal systems that are not easily reversed.14,15 Studies have shown some deterioration of the brain’s white matter due to heroin use, which may affect decision-making abilities, the ability to regulate behavior, and responses to stressful situations.16-18 Heroin also produces profound degrees of tolerance and physical dependence. Tolerance occurs when more and more of the drug is required to achieve the same effects. With physical dependence, the body adapts to the presence of the drug and withdrawal symptoms occur if use is reduced abruptly. Withdrawal may occur within a few hours after the last time the drug is taken. Symptoms of withdrawal include restlessness, muscle and bone pain, insomnia, diarrhea, vomiting, cold flashes with goose bumps (“cold turkey”), and leg movements. Major withdrawal symptoms peak between 24–48 hours after the last dose of heroin and subside after about a week. However, some people have shown persistent withdrawal signs for many months. Finally, repeated heroin use often results in addiction—a chronic relapsing disease that goes beyond physical dependence and is characterized by uncontrollable drug-seeking no matter the consequences.19 Heroin is extremely addictive no matter how it is administered, although

routes of administration that allow it to reach the brain the fastest (i.e., injection and smoking) increase the risk of addiction. Once a person becomes addicted to heroin, seeking and using the drug becomes their primary purpose in life.

Why does heroin use create special risk for contracting HIV/AIDS and hepatitis B and C?

Heroin use increases the risk of being exposed to HIV, viral hepatitis, and other infectious agents through contact with infected blood or body fluids (e.g., semen, saliva) that results from the sharing of syringes and injection paraphernalia that have been used by infected individuals or through unprotected sexual contact with an infected person. Snorting or smoking does not eliminate the risk of infectious disease like hepatitis and HIV/AIDS because people under the influence of drugs still engage in risky sexual and other behaviors that can expose them to these diseases.

Injection drug users (IDUs) are the highest-risk group for acquiring hepatitis C (HCV) infection and continue to drive the escalating HCV epidemic: Each IDU infected with HCV is likely to infect 20 other people.21 Of the 17,000 new HCV infections occurring in the United States in 2010, over half (53 percent) were among IDUs.22 Hepatitis B (HBV) infection in IDUs was reported to be as high as 20 percent in the United States in 2010,23 which is particularly disheartening since an effective vaccine that protects against HBV infection is available. There is currently no vaccine available to protect against HCV infection.

Drug use, viral hepatitis and other infectious diseases, mental illnesses, social dysfunctions, and stigma are often co-occuring conditions that affect one another, creating more complex health challenges that require comprehensive treatment plans tailored to meet all of a patient’s needs. For example, NIDA-funded research has found that drug abuse treatment along with HIV prevention and community-based outreach programs can help people who use drugs change the behaviors that put them at risk for contracting HIV and other infectious diseases. They can reduce drug use and drug-related risk behaviors such as needle sharing and unsafe sexual practices and, in turn, reduce the risk of exposure to HIV/AIDS and other infectious diseases. Only through coordinated utilization of effective antiviral therapies coupled with treatm

What are the treatments for heroin addiction?

A variety of effective treatments are available for heroin addiction, including both behavioral and pharmacological (medications). Both approaches help to restore a degree of normalcy to brain function and behavior, resulting in increased employment rates and lower risk of HIV and other diseases and criminal behavior. Although behavioral and pharmacologic treatments can be extremely useful when utilized alone, research shows that for some people, integrating both types of treatments is the most effective approach

Pharmacological Treatment (Medications)

Scientific research has established that pharmacological treatment of opioid addiction increases retention in treatment programs and decreases drug use, infectious disease transmission, and criminal activity.

When people addicted to opioids first quit, they undergo withdrawal symptoms (pain, diarrhea, nausea, and vomiting), which may be severe. Medications can be helpful in this detoxification stage to ease craving and other physical symptoms, which often prompt a person to relapse. While not a treatment for addiction itself, detoxification is a useful first step when it is followed by some form of evidence-based treatment.

Medications developed to treat opioid addiction work through the same opioid receptors as the addictive drug, but are safer and less likely to produce the harmful behaviors that characterize addiction. Three types of medications include: (1) agonists, which activate opioid receptors; (2) partial agonists, which also activate opioid receptors but produce a smaller response; and (3) antagonists, which block the receptor and interfere with the rewarding effects of opioids. A particular medication is used based on a patient’s specific medical needs and other factors. Effective medications include:

Methadone (Dolophine® or Methadose®) is a slow-acting opioid agonist. Methadone is taken orally so that it reaches the brain slowly, dampening the “high” that occurs with other routes of administration while preventing withdrawal symptoms. Methadone has been used since the 1960s to treat heroin addiction and is still an excellent treatment option, particularly for patients who do not respond well to other medications. Methadone is only available through approved outpatient treatment programs, where it is dispensed to patients on a daily basis.Buprenorphine (Subutex®) is a partial opioid agonist. Buprenorphine relieves drug cravings without producing the “high” or dangerous side effects of other opioids. Suboxone® is a novel formulation of buprenorphine that is taken orally or sublingually and contains naloxone (an opioid antagonist) to prevent attempts to get high by injecting the medication. If an addicted patient were to inject Suboxone, the naloxone would induce withdrawal symptoms, which are averted when taken orally as prescribed. FDA approved buprenorphine in 2002, making it the first medication eligible to be prescribed by certified physicians through the Drug Addiction Treatment Act. This approval eliminates the need to visit specialized treatment clinics, thereby expanding access to treatment for many who need it. In February 2013, FDA approved two generic forms of Suboxone, making this treatment option more affordable.

Naltrexone (Depade® or Revia®) is an opioid antagonist. Naltrexone blocks the action of opioids, is not addictive or sedating, and does not result in physical dependence; however, patients often have trouble complying with the treatment, and this has limited its effectiveness. An injectable long-acting formulation of naltrexone (Vivitrol®) recently received FDA approval for treating opioid addiction. Administered once a month, Vivitrol® may improve compliance by eliminating the need for daily dosing.

Behavioral Therapies

The many effective behavioral treatments available for heroin addiction can be delivered in outpatient and residential settings. Approaches such as contingency management and cognitive-behavioral therapy have been shown to effectively treat heroin addiction, especially when applied in concert with medications. Contingency management uses a voucher-based system in which patients earn “points” based on negative drug tests, which they can exchange for items that encourage healthy living. Cognitive-behavioral therapy is designed to help modify the patient’s expectations and behaviors related to drug use and to increase skills in coping with various life stressors. An important task is to match the best treatment approach to meet the particular needs of the patient.